It is all useless, pointless, hopeless, meaningless, futile, stupid and absurd-- and coming to a very bad end: We all are going to die! And, therefore... What? And, therefore, what? What is the meaning of meaningless? What do we do in response to it? In response to meaningless? In response to the meaning of meaningless? Who ascribes the meaning of meaningless to meaningless? Who says what it means that it is "All useless, pointless, meaningless..."? Who says the "And therefore..." is automatic? Logical? Rational? Universal? Who. Says. So??? That would be each of us individually around the table, across the board. We are The Meaning Makers. We ascribe meaning to everything. We say what it means that everything is meaningless-- that everything is what we say it is, and everybody better listen to us because we are right, and know what we are talking about. And we are making it all up. We are making it up when we say we are not making it up. We make that up, too. We make it all up. Whatever is meaningful is meaningful because we say so, even if we say it is meaningless. Even if we are repeating what someone else said, we are saying it is worth repeating because we say so. And we are making that up. And getting people to agree with us, and saying all together, "That's how things are!" Because we all say so, and how could all of us be wrong? It is all such a con. We are conning ourselves, saying what things mean, and convincing ourselves that they mean what we say they mean because everyone says so. So, we get to "And, therefore..." What? What do we say it means that everything is meaningless? What do we say we should do about it? Because of it? Why that and not something else instead? Why does it follow that because everything is meaningless, we should do whatever it is we think we should do? "Because that is the only thing that makes sense"? Who says so? Who says "That is the only thing that makes sense"? How do they know? They (or, you) are making it up! They/you make up "what makes sense," and act as though it does, and the acting confirms their/your evaluation of the situation, and seals them/you to their/your fate. Everything hangs on what we say in response to what we have said. And therefore what? Whatever we say is going to be something we take on faith. Nothing follows nothing. We make up all of our "and therefores." We take it all on faith that we know what we are talking about when we say whatever we say. What makes us think we know what we are talking about? Why do we take our word for it? Why don't we wait and see what happens? We can't stand the suspense. We can't bear the tension, can't stand the pain, of not-knowing. Oh, the agony! Oh, the anguish! Just end it all now! No! Don't! Just sit still, and be quiet, and wait! Take something else on faith! Like, "Let's see what happens without making anything happen." Without messing with the moment. Without screwing things up worse than they are. Without acting like we know what we are doing when we don't know what we are doing. Just wait. Just watch. Take a shower. Go for a walk. Don't do anything to interfere with the natural unfolding of things in the moment, her and now. Do not intrude on the moment. Do not rush to judgment. Bear. The. Pain! Have some ice cream. Maybe a chocolate shake. Sit tight. Stand pat. Chill out. Breathe. Slowly. Deeply. Wait. Watch. See what arises in the silence. See what stirs to life. See what emerges. Appears. Comforts. Consoles. Calls... From beyond to right here, right now... As a new realization that transforms everything, and gives you a fresh start on life, and living, and being alive.
The moment will teach us all we need to know: To listen to the moment. To see the moment. To know what we know and what we do not know... Every valuable thing is right here right now. Opening ourselves to the moment is opening ourselves to ourselves. Is seeing what is here with us. Is seeing all that comes with us into every moment. Is seeing all there is to see right here, right now. Each moment contains every moment that has preceded it. Each moment impacts every moment following it. This moment is the fulcrum, shifting past into future. This moment is "the still point of the turning world" (T.S. Eliot), the axis mundi, the World Pole, the center of the world, the universe, the cosmos. It all starts again right here right now. Teaching us all we need to know-- if we are open, if we are receptive, if we are listening, looking, watching, waiting, ready for what is waiting and ready for us here/now.
Finding our voice is finding our face is finding our original nature is finding our true way of being in the world. If we are hungry, we know it. We don't have to ask anyone, "Do I look hungry to you?" "Am I hungry?? "Should I eat something now?" We know when we are hungry, and we know when we have had enough to eat. We don't ask anyone, "Am I full now?" "Should I quit eating now?" But we let other people tell us what to do, how to dress, how to wear our hair, what to believe, what books to read, what movies to watch, how to think and feel... The list is long of ways we allow other people to direct our life. There are boundaries that are our boundaries. They are the borders separating us from others. We have to know where we start and they stop. Robert Frost said, "Good fences make good neighbors." They also make it possible for us to be who we are in relation to our neighbors, and not just an extension of our neighbors on our side of the fence. Or, perhaps we should just start asking people, "Should I go use the toilet now?" "Do you think I need to pee?"
You know how you see things? That's how you are going to always see things unless you enlarge your vocabulary and change the people you hang out with, which will probably mean changing where you hang out. And you have to give up judgment and opinions, adopting an attitude of interested neutrality regarding everything-- which, in itself, will change the way you see things. You can have preferences, but shoulds, oughts, musts, and have tos go to the burning barrel. Include balance and harmony in with the things you prefer, and live out of your center instead of out of your desires and cravings. All of this will come together to enable you to make your peace with your life, and live with equanimity and good faith in all of your dealings with other people. And when you die, people will come from miles around to testify to the benevolent impact you had on their life and to how much better the world has become because you were in it. And, they will be right.