When we embrace our fate, we unite with our destiny. We are born into our fate-- our DNA is fated. We couldn't do anything about it. It is a given. So are our parents and our point of origin in space and time. So are our loves and our hates, our preferences and our disinclinations. And all the things about us that we cannot help. Our destiny is what becomes of us, because and in spite of, the things we can't help. Our destiny is what we do with our fate. Our destiny is what we might yet be-- anyway, nevertheless, even so. Our destiny is what is ours to do with the gifts/proclivities/interests/ genius/daemon (sounds like "diamond")/virtues/ character/spirit/etc. that came with us from the womb, in the time and place, the context and circumstances, the here and now, of our living. Our destiny and our fate are bound together, and join to produce us and the life we live. Our dreams may have nothing to do with either. And may have everything to do with both. This is where The Silence enters the frame. We find our way amid fate, destiny and dreams by tuning to The Silence, and waiting for "the mud to settle and the water to clear." By "cultivating stillness," and watching/listening for what arises/emerges/occurs/appears unbidden within, to beckon and call us to action. Judgment and opinion have no place on the road to what is ours to do, or, their place on the road is to provide the excursions necessary to learn they have no place on the road. Balance and harmony are essential guides. We "feel" more than we "know." And must learn to know what we feel, and to trust it to lead us along the way. The rule of thumb is: "We feel our way to What, we think our way to How," though where feeling stops and thinking starts is a point to faint to find. "We know when we are on the beam and when we are off it" (Joseph Campbell). And so, the trick is to know what we know, to attend our feelings, and honor The Silence with regular returns to the stillness of mindful awareness. (The Jon Kabat-Zinn YouTube videos are excellent resources here-- the shortest ones first) With these instructions in hand, all that is left is being quiet and seeing what happens. Happy trails, with one thing leading to another all along the way!
All religion is grounded upon the principle of the accumulation of merit. If you want to get to heaven and avoid hell either before or after you die, you have to do it the way the religion in question tells you to do it, there-by earning your reward by the way you believe and live your life. It is the same way with what I have to offer. With my approach, you earn merit by having no interest whatsoever in earning merit. The heart-felt position of "No merit! No gain! No contrivance!" of "Only sincerity! Only spontaneity! Only living with nothing in it for you!" is the key to awakening, realization, illumination, enlightenment, and the glories of "the Farther Shore," and "The Pure Land" of happiness and glory everlasting. Nothing to be gained is the way of infinite gain. And merit-based religion is the only kind of religion. And "unconditional love" is the best joke of all (Because if you don't believe love is unconditional, you go straight to hell).
There is no straight path from here to there. Carl Jung talks about the journey from outer to inner as "The circumambulation of the self"-- a spiral inward from the widest base to the still point at the axis mundi, where we arrive to join all others at the heart of who we are. There are no shortcuts on the way from our head to our heart, and everyone faces the same hardships and ordeals, makes the same discoveries, uncovers the same truth, realizes the same revelations, comes to the same conclusions, and knows what has been known by all who have known through the ages: Be Who You Are! The I and the We are One! Thou Art That! "At the end of all our exploring, will be to arrive where we started, and to know the place for the first time" (T.S. Eliot).