All it takes is time. Time will tell. Everything becomes clear in time. Time reveals all. If you don't know what to do, just wait to see what you should have done, and you will know better what to do next time. Our entire life is a record of what works, and what doesn't work-- of what to do, and what not to do. All we need to know what to do and what to leave undone is right there, revealed clearly as the mid-day sun on a cloudless day for those who look with eyes to see. If we keep making the same mistakes and ending up in the same place, we either aren't looking, or we can't see what we look at. Which keeps us cycling forever around the same convictions that haven't worked since they were conceived. Who is responsible for what we know to be so? That would be us. How well does our life bear us out? Our life is the result of our believing what we believe. Dr. Phil would ask, "How's that working for you?" We have to be honest here and see who, or what, we blame. If it weren't for who or what how would things be different-better? What keeps us doing the same things, expecting a different outcome? When are we going to look at the evidence plainly revealed by how things are, and do things differently next time? We are the only constant remaining in place throughout our life. We are what we have believed and done. And here we are because of that. Our life isn't going to change until we change what we believe and do. You know by now where I am going to say the answer lies: Sit down. Be quiet. Listen to the silence. Wait for what emerges, arises, appears, unbidden. See what it is asking of you. Decide to do it or not. And keep following this process until your life takes a turn for the better. And keep following it for as long as life lasts.
We all have the same source, the same origin, the same goal. This is not a competition. It is not a race. It is not test to see who is best. We are not in it for what we can get out of it. The only measure of success is the degree to which we help one another in the work that is ours to do, individually and collectively: Seeing, hearing, understanding, knowing, doing, being, becoming. Becoming what? Becoming those who see, hear, understand, know, do, be, become those who see...etc. That's all there is. Having, owning, possessing, acquiring, achieving, amassing... are distractions that keep us from seeing, hearing, etc. It's the old Garden of Eden story being acted out in our lives over and over throughout time. What are we doing here? What are we living for? What guides our boat on its path through the sea? How do we know what is worth our time and attention? Who says so? Who is our authority in determining the right answer to these questions? How do we know they know what they are talking about? Where do we go from here?
I could talk myself out of everything. I come from a long line of ancestors who never took a chance, never stepped out of the normal and customary, never asked questions, never explored their world, never wondered, never imagined, never created, always did what they were told, and made it difficult for anyone they knew to be different than they were. I'm swimming against an ingrained current to do anything I've never done before. Maybe you know what I mean. When I sit quietly and reflect on these things, I am always brought to the place of realizing again that I owe it to myself to find out if there is anything to be afraid of. I am reminded again that I can trust myself to have what it takes to find what I need to deal with anything that comes my way. I have always done it. There is no reason to think that I will suddenly stop being able to do it. So, I say to myself, step into the thing you fear and see what there is that you won't be able to deal with. And here I am. Still in business. Looking for something I can't handle.