The most important thing is what needs to be done moment-by-moment in each situation as it arises. Take care of the moment! The moment matters most! Doing right by our moments adds up to doing right by our life. Nobody can do better than that. What did you miss, thinking about something else, in the last moment? What are you missing in this one? Lay everything aside to see the moment. To listen to the moment. To know what is being called for in the moment. Live to serve the moment. And let everything fall out around that.
The silence is God without the theology. You don't have to take anything on faith except the truth you know to be so but can't believe it is. Bring up the Two Circles Metaphor and apply it here. The Two Circles Metaphor asks you to imagine two congruent circles side-by-side with a common tangent (that is to say, touching). The two circles are anything that stand in opposition to each other, the contraries that make up our life. And you stand at their point of contact, reconciling what can be reconciled, integrating what can be integrated, harmonizing what can be harmonized, and bearing the pain of mutual exclusion where it must be borne. The contact point between The Circles of Confusion, The Circles of Conflict, is the place of the cross. When Jesus said "Take up your cross and come with me," he meant "Stand at the center-point between your conflicts and contradictions, bearing the agony of their opposition, and come with me-- because that is where life is to be lived." Place who you are in one circle and who you also are in the other circle. Or you in one circle and you job in the other. Or you and any of your conflicts. and consider the circles. Sit with the circles. Feeling the anguish generated by the circles, in the silence of the moment. Wait. Watching. For something to happen. For something to shift. For something to arise in the moment, to appear in the moment, to emerge in the moment, to occur to you in the moment, to beckon to you in the moment, to dawn upon you in the moment... You are waiting "for the mud to settle and the water to clear." For the way to open before you. For what needs to be done to become apparent. Then, it will be a matter of summoning the courage to do it. This is the "Thy will, not mine, be done" moment in the moment, with the "Thy" understood to be the silence. It is important to understand the silence to be beyond comprehension, beyond understanding. If you want to give it a name, call it The Tao, because "Tao" carries no baggage. It is a word devoid of referents. It has no more meaning than the word "silence." And see it as the origin of everything, the source of all that is, a circle containing the Two Circles. And if that appears to you as the Yin/Yang symbol, it should come as no surprise to you at this point in the conversation.
Religion is about getting God on our side. Gaining favor with God. Accumulating merit with God. Securing forgiveness for our sins and acquiring eternal reward for our faithful obedience. Who would go to a so-called worship service-- as though worship can be scheduled or created with loud music and louder preaching-- if it weren't for heaven and hell? Take heaven and hell off the table, and who would give God a second glance? Religion is good for heaven and hell, and for providing the route to escape hell and enter into heaven and its everlasting bliss (Neverminding how eventually even everlasting bliss devolves in to boredom and more of the same old same old). "Nevermind," the proponents of religion say, "God has a plan." God's plan includes the world as it is. If this is the best God can do, I wouldn't count on eternity being all that great. Religion spends its time, and ours, "barking up the wrong tree." Talking to us about how to get God on our side. That Which Has Always Been Called "God" is already on our side. It is only a matter of getting ourselves together with That Which Has Our Best Interest At Heart, And The Good Of The Cosmos As Well, in order to find our life and live it-- and letting that be that. Whatever comes next will have to be trusted to take care of itself without our speculation, or even, anticipation to get in the way of our finding our life and living it-- of being what the moment needs us to be moment-by-moment in each situation as it arises. That is where our focus belongs. Doing what needs to be done, the way only we can do it, when it needs to be done, where it needs to be done, how it needs to be done, because it needs to be done, moment-by-moment, in each situation as it arises. That is it. How do we do it? This is where religion at its best comes into play, simply by laying out the blueprint for finding our life and living it and encouraging us along the way. Religion at its best teaches us to listen to the silence (Which is God without the theology), read the silence properly, and step into living aligned with the silence, in accord with the Tao at the heart of life and being, and doing our thing the way our life needs us to do it, all our life long (And having absolutely nothing at stake in the outcome).
If the term "free radical" had an image associated with it, it would be a perfect metaphor for what is needed for our times (Really, for any time!). Free Radicals whizzing around being true to themselves, in tune with themselves and with their circumstances, and working out the conflicts and contradictions created by their conjunction for the good of all concerned (Whether they realize it is good or not)-- that's our mission if we choose to accept it. Few do. And so it is said, "Many are called, but few choose to heed it, or do what is asked of them." That is where we come in! We adopt as our own modus operandi the way of Free Radicals, and swing into action, saying, doing, and standing for those things that cry out to be said, done and stood for in each situation as it arises, no matter what, all our life long. This is the Sisyphean Task required of everyone who would be who they are asked to be in the time and place, the here and now, of their living. The work is the same throughout the ages. Seeing what needs to be done and doing it the way it needs to be done, when and where it needs to be done because it needs to be done, with no though of what is in it for us, and no concern for the outcome. Just sincerity, truth, honesty and good will meeting the circumstances of their life head-on and straight-up in the service of the true good of all concerned. That is all that is ever asked of us. The work is waiting. Why hold anything back? Free Radicals! Awaaaayyyyy!