Doing what our life asks us to do, being who our life asks us to be, faithfully offering what is called for in each situation as it arises, providing what is needed in each moment, with compassion and kindness, sincerity and grace, without contriving some outcome, or seeking our advantage or gain, is to be in accord with the Tao, living aligned with the Way, and fulfilling our destiny, step by step, through each day. Jesus couldn't do better than that. The Buddha couldn't beat it. The Dali Lama aspires to it. The people who toss it aside in their search for more, continue the legacy of Adam and Eve in trading Eden for the Wasteland, and throwing away their life looking for life.
The moment is where we come alive. What is blocking our life-in-the-moment? What is happening there that keeps us from being alive? What is our attitude about what is happening there that keeps us from being alive? There is caring too much and there is caring too little. There is wanting too much and there is wanting too little. There is thinking too much and there is thinking too little. You see where this is going. We have to be capable of doing what needs to be done in ways appropriate to the occasion in every moment of our life. We need to have access to every action we are capable of initiating as a fully functioning member of the species without being incapacitated by over-or-under reacting in any area. Living from the center, from the still point between all extremes, requires optimal distance from everything. There is too-close and too-far-away. Strive for the middle way in all things. Not caring too much, and not caring too little. About everything.
Sit down, be quiet, watch your thoughts, watch your response to your thoughts, distance yourself from your thoughts, observe by being aware of being aware, without judgment or opinion, with compassion and non-contrivance, not striving for anything but awareness of everything. If the things that arise become overwhelming, return your attention to your breathing. Breathe slowly, deeply, pausing between exhale and inhale for a count of five. After five breaths, resume your observation of thoughts arising in the silence. For twenty minutes, or for as close to that as your schedule allows. Do this three times a day, as your life permits.
There are two things to attend in every listening session with yourself, and with everyone else: What is being said, and What is talking. Both must be interpreted in light of the context and circumstances, and who is speaking, and who is listening. We cannot remove ourselves from any conversation or any relationship, and impact what is heard by the way we hear it. We have to take all of it into account, observing the situation and our place in it, moment-by-moment, situation-by-situation, day-by-day. Particularly what is talking. What is the emotional charge behind the words? Depression? Dismay? Hopelessness? Anxiety? Fear? Worry? Anger? Rage? Hatred? Defensiveness? Uncertainty? Unease? The push to prevail? The need to win? Etc. When you respond, speak to the emotion as much as to the words. Get to the bottom of the origin of the words. To the source of what is being said. Do not leave the source un-probed. Ask the questions that beg to be asked. Say the things that cry out to be said. Take your time between the statement and the reply. Allow yourself to process everything, including your emotional response to the statement, and speak from your own center, from the source of your own propulsion, from the still point between action and reaction-- the still point between thoughts. Between feelings. And make it your highest priority to nurture your relationship with the still point through all the days of your life.