Why do we care about what we care about? We will never explain our way to the bottom of it. The question can be answered only with another question. "Why do you care about what you care about? We do not have access to the Carer within. We like what we like. We don't like what we don't like. We love what we love. We don't love what we don't love. We care about what we care about. We don't care about what we don't care about. There is an entire cosmos within which we do not control, understand, comprehend, or even know about. Why do we see the way we see? Feel the way we feel? Think the way we think? Our viewpoints are not our own. We do not reason our way there, and cannot reason our way out of there. We are led about, directed and guided through our life by what, we do not know. Who/What is piloting our boat on its path through the sea? And, if we have a destination in mind, Who/What put it there? No matter how we try to evade, escape, deny the conclusion, we cannot avoid the inescapable reality that our life has a life of its own. The only reasonable, logical (since we like logic and reason so), alternative here is to open ourselves to the truth of another boarder, and devote ourselves to the task of sensing/feeling the influence of instinct and intuition, and trusting ourselves to the realm of hunches, nudges and things that occur to us "out of the blue" (or in the wee hours of the night), in determining what is being called for within the circumstances at hand, responding with liege loyalty and filial devotion, in doing what we are led to do, and allow our outcomes to be our outcomes-- without judgment or opinion, but with grace and compassion pouring over, spilling out-- and see where it goes.
Carl Jung referred to the feminine aspects of a man as his Anima, and to the masculine aspects of a woman as her Animus. When men are being the best woman they can be, and women are being the best man they can be, the word is balanced and in harmony, and everything happens exactly as it needs to happen on all levels, every day. Things are as they are because men think they are to be men, and women think they are to be women. And that isn't the only problem. No one has any idea of what a Real Man is, and no one has any idea of what a Real Woman is. We all need to go back to the womb and start over with parents who understand, in a world of parents who understand, and see how things would be if we had a proper upbringing. Who is the best man you have ever known? Who is the best woman you have ever known? Live toward being the best of both those people in the way you live your life. If you are a man or a woman, live to bring forth the best man and the best woman, you have ever known. That will shift things toward the good. Then we can work to improve our ideas of "man" and "woman." And that will get us within reach of the ideal human being. And that will be a world worth living in!
I am the jewel in the lotus-- om mani padme hum-- so is the Buddha, so are you. And, so are we all the jewel in Indra's net, each reflecting the other by the light of realization/awareness/ illumination/enlightenment/awakening. One is many, many are one. We are the same in our differentness, with each of us being unique, set apart, individually identified by our outlook, our fingerprints, the sonogram of our voice, the coloration of our eyes, the cones of our irises our idea of a meaningful life, and 10,000 other things-- and each of us being exactly alike by being different in so many ways. One is many. Many are one. And we get to each other through ourselves. We cannot be intimate if we will not be vulnerable. We can be only as vulnerable as we are conscious of who, and how, and what we are. The less self-transparent we are, the more hidden we have to be, all wars are fought by those who refuse to know themselves. If you want to know me, know you. There I am. If you do not want to know you, you will never know anyone. You are the jewel in the lotus only when you know it to be so-- and being humbled by it, not impressed, because you know it to be so of everyone. Everyone is the Buddha. Everyone is the Christ. And the Hero's Journey is living a meaningful life. If you understand this and apply it, you have it made. Om mani padme hum.