We find the anchor we seek in the source of our original nature. We are what we have to work with in each situation as it arises, in whatever circumstances describe our station. Returning to the Self is remembering/realizing the essence of who we are-- reaffirming our allegiance and loyalty to the service, exhibition, expression, incarnation of the grace, genius, daemon, spirit, character, virtues, and vitality that have been ours since before we were born, and constitute our unique identity among our kind. Our identity "thus come" (Which is what they said about the Buddha, "The One Thus Come"), is who we are, coming forth to bless the time and place, the here and now, of our living, moment-by-moment, day-by-day. If we are living in light of some other purpose, in pursuit of some other goal, we are on the wrong path, and we need to redirect by simply returning to the Self and bringing our Self forth to meet what faces us every day. It is not what would Jesus do, but what would our Self do within the occasions and circumstances that compose each day. Let us commit ourselves to living to discover what our Self would do with the day. Let us live to allow our day to bring us out like the drum brings out the drummer.
Seeking the center, returning to the source, present in the moment, alive to the time that is at hand, we are ready to respond as needed to the occasion as it arises without anxiety about, or interference from, the 10,000 things afoot in the world. Like the moon in its course, or geese in flight.
We have spent a lot of time over time as a species trying to control what happens to us. Trying to make happen what we want to happen, and to keep from happening what we don't want to happen. Considering that not one of us intended to be where we are here and now. We are no more in control of what happens and doesn't happen than we are in control of what we will dream tonight. "Acceptably in control most of the time" is the best we can hope for. But. Acceptability is a floating point on a scale that is, itself, dependent upon the situation. We are more accepting of "out-of-control-ness" in some situations than others. If we expanded our acceptability across all situations equally, we would be much more in control of our reactions to our circumstances, and much less controlled by our obsessive/compulsive need to be in control of everything. Control is an illusion. A delusion. It is not what we think it is. Pick a day in the coming week, maybe Sunday. Not much has to happen on a Sunday, at a particular time, in a particular way. We can blow a Sunday off from time to time and not miss anything important. So you might try the next Sunday that comes along. Get up and step into the day without having to control anything. Live entirely out of your whim-of-the-moment. Do what you feel like doing when you feel like doing it. Ease into every moment wondering "What is this moment calling for?" Not doing anything here in order for anything to happen there, or to not-happen there. Live throughout the day with no thought of doing this so that will, or will not, happen. Just do this so this will happen. See how things go without being micromanaged. Live for the entire day without contriving anything. Not-knowing what you will do next, or why you will do whatever you do. Waiting to see what is called for-- like going to the l00. What has an urgency about it similar to the "call of the loo"? Wait for that. Do that. Moment by moment. The entire day. It will shift your perspective of being in control, put control in its place. And give you more freedom to be yourself than you have ever had anywhere in your life. You can trust yourself to know when to go to the loo and what to do once you get there. Just so. You can trust yourself to know what to do when, or when to do what, throughout your life. Simply wait for the mud to settle and the water to clear. And see what calls you to do what when. If you dare. And, if you don't dare, you might get to the bottom of that, asking, "Who/what is in control of whom here?"