We cannot help how we see things, the way we think about things. We can change our mind about how we see and think about how things are, but not by force of will–only by growing up, some more, again.
It is almost as though we can’t be held accountable for the way we see things, the way we think about things. We can’t help it, It is “just the way we are,” and we don’t do anything trying to be that way–we “just are that way.” And it changes as we grow up. And it never changes if we do not grow up.
Growing up seems to be a magical force all its own, having to do with the interchange with the events and experiences of our life, but some people have the same experiences without being changed for the better, and are still doing, being, thinking the way they did when they were 13 all their life long.
And everything hinges on changing the way we see and think on our way along the way. There is no help for those who do not do that.
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